Well there’s a twist. The woman who has spent years writing about hope, endurance, courage, getting through trials and being strong is writing about giving up?! Yes, because everyone has those days. I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t feel discouraged, depressed and sad sometimes. And I want to acknowledge this.
There are days when you are going to feel like you have hit a wall. Days when you simply can’t face getting out of bed in the morning. Days where even breathing is hard. If we, as humans, didn’t have these days, we wouldn’t appreciate the good ones.
The trick is to learn how to not stay there.
Someone once likened these days to the valleys of life. When we reach these valleys of grief or mourning or just plain frustration, our natural inclination is to just sit down and build a home. But there is also an equally opposing force that tells us to get up and keep moving through the valley. It’s up to you to decide which voice you listen to.
When I was younger, I served a mission for my church in the Micronesia Islands. Though there were many wonderful memories and people I met, there were many days of frustration, exhaustion, intolerable heat, very large cockroaches (I can’t stand them) and other not-so-nice experiences. When it got the better of me, I would often refer to this little poem that was on a journal of mine.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all up hill, When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must, but don't you quit. Success is failure turned inside out— The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell just how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far; So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit— It's when things go wrong that you mustn't quit.
After reading this, I would shed a tear or two…say a prayer…take a deep breath…and start over.
So to all of those who are frustrated, exhausted, angry, grieving or just plain feel like giving up, I say this…rest if you must, but don’t you quit.